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What is the most important thing in a relationship?

Recently I was asked what I thought was the most important thing to have in a relationship. I rattled off things such as love, good communication, care, and while those things are important, this person told me, and I should really believe them, because they are one of my supervisors, that one of the most important things to have in a relationship is respect.
And I thought to myself,  that is so true, because often how we treat others shows the level of respect that we have for them.  When couples come into my office, sometimes their level of respect is definitely shown in the way that they speak to one another.  
Harsh and critical words really do affect the relationship in a negative way so a gentle reminder, that they need to be speaking kindly to one another and about one another, makes a difference when they come back after they have been practicing that. 
So my thought on what respect looks like in a relationship? Respect looks like, speaking to

one another in a kind way and speaking about one another in a kind way. I hope that helps and 

I look forward to sharing more thoughts on topics such as relationships. 
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What does respect look like in a healthy relationship?

Valuing one another’s feelings and needs.
Dismissing or minimising our partner’s feelings and needs sends the message that we don’t think their feelings and needs are important to them and over time, this can be detrimental to a relationship, as they will shut down, withdraw and not engage in conversation as freely as they would like.

Listening and validating their feelings and needs sends the message we respect them and value them as a person, and that whatever is going on for them, we will stop, take notice and offer validation.

 
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